#8 – Sticky Things Demon Angel Misery Whispers to You: “Look, I don’t know how long you’re going to be feeling like this, but I’m here for you. What they did to you should never be forgiven. They’ll be sorry for how they’ve treated you. And now look what’s happened. You’re all alone. Well, except for me. I’ll look after you. I’ll be your friend. I’ll protect you and comfort you. Just keep your attention on me. We’ll hide away from the world together. Connect yourself to me and forget about everyone else.”
ARE YOU CAUGHT IN A TRAP?
WHAT ROLE DO MISERY AND SUFFERING PLAY IN THE SITUATION YOU’RE CURIOUS ABOUT TODAY?
In the language of combat sports like mixed martial arts (MMA), the behaviors listed below are defined as TRANSITIONS. To improve his or her position in a fight, a fighter adjusts to force his opponent to move in a direction that will eventually end in a trap. In this case, the demon influencer weakens you by suggesting that other people have more power than you. All day, all night, whispering into your ear on repeat. His relentless repetition finally breaks your will and you’ve fallen into the trap…again.
DEFINITION: Misery is sadness, loneliness and an empty feeling in your heart that bubbles up into your throat. Feeling separate and disconnected makes you vulnerable to all the wrong influences.
- I wish I could stop comparing myself to others. They all seem so much happier than me.
- Everyone’s gossiping about me. My secret is out. I shouldn’t have done it.
- No one likes me anymore.
- Our relationship wasn’t going so well, but I wasn’t ready for him to end it.
- He’s already found someone new.
- There are just too many things changing at once. I feel like I have no control over anything.
- Is anyone on my side? I feel so alone.
- When am I ever going to get well?
The Opposite of Misery and Suffering is Respect
In this case, when you feel respected, you feel balanced, connected and confident about the future. You know this time of suffering will pass and that you’ll eventually feel better.
Each Demon Angel represents a set of behaviors. Their job is to influence you away from being determined, focused and safe. They disorganize your thinking (gaslighting) and shift you to feeling upset, disconnected and on the opposite side of someone.
What role does this demon’s encouragement to be miserable and lonely play in the situation that you are analyzing?
Notice that respect is the exact opposite of how the demon is influencing the situation. Demon Angels do not respect you. Their primary focus is to distract and confuse you. Because you prefer to distract yourself and ignore your assignment, this demon has a very strong hold over you. You think you’re in control. But the demon knows just what to say to lead you in the wrong direction.
Respect yourself first.
Questions:
- Regarding the situation you’re thinking about, what would change if you applied respect, either self-respect or respect towards others?
- What would have to change to improve your situation? Is something or someone supporting this behavior and allowing you or another person to get away with it? Or are you allowing yourself to be pushed around by a demon influencer?
- Pick one thing you can do to improve this situation.
- Share your insight in the comments below. What did you learn from this exercise?
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