#2 – Sticky Things Demon Arrogance Whispers to You: “Everyone in here is looking at you. They want to know your secret. They don’t realize that I’m the one telling you what to say and what to do to let them know who’s the boss. I love it when they idolize you. Go ahead, yell out loud, “Who’s your daddy?”
ARE YOU CAUGHT IN A TRAP?
WHAT ROLE DO PRIDE AND ARROGANCE PLAY IN THE SITUATION YOU’RE CURIOUS ABOUT TODAY?
In the language of combat sports like mixed martial arts (MMA), the behaviors listed below are defined as TRANSITIONS. To improve his or her position in a fight, the fighter adjusts to force his opponent to move in a direction that will eventually end in a trap.
DEFINITION: That person is so arrogant! They think they’re God’s gift to women. In support of their arrogance, they will:
- attempt to control you by comparing you to others and letting you know you don’t measure up to his or her standards.
- marry or commit to one person but still want to date other people.
- cheat on you, but then get furious and act like the world is coming to an end if you cheat on them.
- believe they are entitled to feel the way they do because they are so beautiful and successful.
- let you know you should feel lucky to be with them. They say, “Look at everyone else who’s interested in me. They’re standing in line! Why don’t you leave, if you’re so unhappy?”
- get furious if you act prideful or arrogant.
- bend or break the rules to get more of what they want.
- think they are entitled to more than what other people have.
- take what they want from you and give you nothing (or not much) in return.
- disempower you by diminishing, undermining and ignoring you.
- make you feel guilty and then make you pay for questioning them.
The Opposite of Pride and Arrogance is Respect
When you feel respected, you feel balanced, connected and calm. You don’t have to defend or protect yourself.
Each Demon Angel represents a set of behaviors. Their job is to influence you away from calm, neutral and centered. They disorganize your thinking (gaslighting) and shift you to feeling upset, disconnected and on the opposite side of someone.
What role does this demon’s prideful, arrogant encouragement play in the situation that you are analyzing?
Notice that respect is the exact opposite of how the demon is influencing the situation.
Questions:
- Regarding the situation you’re thinking about, what would change if you applied respect, either self-respect or respect towards others?
- What would have to change to improve your situation? Is something or someone supporting the behavior and allowing the person to get away with it? Or are you allowing yourself to be pushed around?
- Pick one thing you can do to improve the situation.
- Share your insight in the comments below. What did you learn from this exercise?
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