#6 – Sticky Things Demon Angel Jealousy Whispers to You: “Hmmph! Who does she think she is? I have a few ideas for how to bring her down a peg or two. Let’s have some fun destroying everything she’s put together. Just a word or two will smack that smile off her face. Come on! Are you up for it? You know you’ll feel better after you deflate some of her happiness and enthusiasm. Why does she deserve to feel like that when you’re over here working hard and getting no attention? Let’s do this. I’ve got your back.”
ARE YOU CAUGHT IN A TRAP?
WHAT ROLE DO JEALOUSY AND ENVY PLAY IN THE SITUATION YOU’RE CURIOUS ABOUT TODAY?
In the language of combat sports like mixed martial arts (MMA), the behaviors listed below are defined as TRANSITIONS. To improve his or her position in a fight, a fighter adjusts to force his opponent to move in a direction that will eventually end in a trap. In this case, the demon influencer weakens you by suggesting that other people have more power than you. All day, all night, whispering into your ear on repeat. Her relentless repetition finally breaks your will and you’ve fallen into the trap…again.
DEFINITION: When you experience jealousy, you resent someone’s success or happiness. You might feel threatened or fearful. Envy is associated with resenting personal attributes (gifts) that a person has but you don’t, such as physical skill, confidence, and mental sharpness.
- Yes, I gossip about her, but she deserves it. She’s very high on herself.
- I’m so happy when she makes a mistake. I tell everyone about it.
- His boasting gets on my nerves! I get angry and impatient whenever he is in the room.
- One day, they’ll find out that he’s a phony. Pretender!
- I’m determined to show everyone that you are not the person you pretend to be.
- Whenever she wins, I feel sick to my stomach. Why does she deserve that?
- I don’t think it’s right that she’s bragging about her achievements.
- I wish I could stop comparing myself to others.
The Opposite of Jealousy is Respect
In this case, when you feel respected, you feel balanced, connected and secure. You won’t have to defend or protect yourself from people’s comments about your personal accomplishments.
Each Demon Angel represents a set of behaviors. Their job is to influence you away from being determined, focused and confident. They disorganize your thinking (gaslighting) and shift you to feeling upset, disconnected and on the opposite side of someone.
What role does this demon’s encouragement to be envious play in the situation that you are analyzing?
Notice that respect is the exact opposite of how the demon is influencing the situation. Demon Angels do not respect you. Their primary focus is to distract and confuse you. Because you prefer to distract yourself and ignore your assignment, this demon has a very strong hold over you. You think you’re in control. But the demon knows just what to say to lead you in the wrong direction.
Questions:
- Regarding the situation you’re thinking about, what would change if you applied respect, either self-respect or respect towards others?
- What would have to change to improve your situation? Is something or someone supporting this behavior and allowing you or another person to get away with it? Or are you allowing yourself to be pushed around by a demon influencer?
- Pick one thing you can do to improve this situation.
- Share your insight in the comments below. What did you learn from this exercise?
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