‘I am not the victim of the world I see.’ ACIM Lesson 31
Day 31: Wait a minute! How can you say, “I am not the victim?”
We already know that we need an open mind to continue the daily journey through the ACIM lessons. But even more so today as ACIM Teachers Nouk Sanchez and Coreen Walson encourage us to keep an open mind.
Because from where we stand, most of us would question today’s lesson based on the fact that the US is at war with Iran. US says it will strike ‘deeper’ into Iran as war spreads across region
Not to mention the Epstein Files and all the powerful dignitaries associated with him who are being revealed.
ACIM: The Gap Diagram
Due to those significant complications, let’s return to the Gap Diagram introduced in ACIM Lesson 3, and often discussed in other lessons too.
In the game of Demon Spotting, our objective is to remain in the Unified Mind space in the River of Grace, constantly connected to God’s love through Jesus and the Holy Spirit.
If we let our eyes and our focus drift away to worry and problem-solve on our own, we lose access to the real power to change anything. When this happens, we drift into split-mind territory. We shift ourselves to the River of Shame which is the split-mind zone of the Gap Diagram.
In this river, we believe that we are equipped to solve the world’s problems (with our opinions mostly). But the problems are never ending. Plus, we don’t have the tools to combat the enemy.
Therefore, what most people are unaware of is that the goal of the opposite team in this spiritual warfare is to draw our attention away from God, by any means necessary.
With God, we allow his power to move through us. Without God, we lose access to power and are left to float aimlessly on the River of Shame. The other team counts that as a win because we have been nullified.
Basically, we’re no longer a danger since we’ve fallen asleep.
Gap Diagram: Victim mentality only exists in the split-mind, River of Shame experience
Click this link to review Coreen’s excellent (and brief) explanation of the Gap Diagram in ACIM Lesson 6: My Daily Reflection (the tool).
The middle of the diagram shows the split-mind, River of Shame space. This is where all of our complaints live. Coreen uses the Gap Diagram to simplify the idea that part of our mind treats God as if he is an enemy. Like someone we have to resist.
However, God is not our enemy. He desires to share the Unified Mind space where peace, love, and harmony reside, with every person on the planet.
To get there, surrender is required.
Arrogance keeps you in the River of Shame. Your humbleness, in recognizing your powerlessness and accepting God’s strength, is required for entry to the River of Grace.
Basically, her teaching points to the fact that we need to fix our attention on the Unified Mind space available in the River of Grace where Jesus and the Holy Spirit can help us.
Otherwise, we end up in the River of Shame, being useless, lamenting our victimhood, and pointing to all the reasons why we’re right to feel that way.
Acting like a victim is manipulative
Victim: I shudder whenever people use the word “victim”. It’s one of my least favorite words. Plus, whenever someone is “acting like a victim”, I might roll my eyes instead of offering compassion.
Recognizing, of course, that if someone is a victim of something unfortunate, that’s different. But that isn’t what I’m talking about. In situations where comfort and assistance are required, my compassion and help are automatically available.
Hey! I’m not perfect.
As it turns out, there’s a good reason why my defenses kick in when someone is “acting like a victim.”
So, did you know that “acting like a victim” is manipulative.
So, if you ever see me doing it, please call me out about it. Say something! Because if I’ve slipped into victim mode, that means I’ve taken my focus off the only one who can help me. And that is Jesus.
Not only that, but it means I’m in the wrong location–in the River of Shame, where help is limited.
Holy Spirit helps you exit the River of Shame, but only if you’re willing to stop wallowing in victimhood. Ugh! Saying it that way makes victimhood sound like a sticky place to be.
CLUE PHONE: Start by taking responsibility for something that didn’t work or isn’t working now. Being responsible is a sign of a good man. Accepting responsibility for your decisions and how things turned out is a sign of a mentally healthy woman. Victimhood, left to fester, makes for a miserable life. Who wants that for their future? No one.
Victim Mentality is a perfect match for the Demon Spotting Code Word: Porcupine.
These next sections are from Google: Key Characteristics, Origin and Function, and Overcoming the Victim Mindset. The descriptions are so good that I decided to cut and paste them here for future reference.
Not only that, but the key characteristics remind me of the Demon Spotting Code Word: Porcupine.
AI Description: Porcupines are protected by roughly 30,000 sharp, barbed quills on their back, sides, and tail, which detach easily upon contact with a predator. Conversely, their face, legs, and underbelly are soft, leaving those parts vulnerable to predators.
Everyone knows that when porcupines are angry or scared, those deadly, sharp quills come out. But when they want sympathy and validation, they show their soft underbelly. This is a difficult personality style to navigate.
You’ve probably met people who have this style of responding to different situations. At work. In social groups. And especially at home.
Key Characteristics of Demon Spotting Code Word: Porcupine
AI Overview: These are perfect descriptors (with some editing and additions from me) for the Demon Spotting Code Word: Porcupine.
- Blaming Others: They blame other people, bad luck, or external situations for all problems and difficulties in life.
- Lack of Responsibility/Accountability: Difficulty acknowledging their own role or contribution to a problem.
- Helplessness and Powerlessness: There is a deeply held belief that they have no control over their own life, and that efforts to make a change will be futile.
- Seeking Sympathy and Attention: Their behavior can be a way to gain pity, attention, or sympathy from others (sometimes called “secondary gains”). They get angry (sharp quills come out), if they don’t get the reaction they’re looking for.
- Rumination and Negativity: They dwell on past wrongs and misfortunes, often with a pessimistic outlook on life. These stories get repeated over and over again.
- Lack of Empathy: A person stuck in this mindset is so self-absorbed with their own suffering that they show little empathy for the pain of others.
- Resistance to Help: When offered solutions or constructive feedback, they may become defensive, reject the help, or present many reasons why it won’t work.
Victim Mentality: Origin and Function
AI Overview: A victim mentality is not a formal, diagnosable condition. Instead, it’s a learned behavior or coping mechanism designed to deal with past trauma, abuse, or neglect during childhood. Initially, it served as a survival strategy due to lack of personal power or safety.
Currently, your victim mentality offers a sense of safety by allowing you to:
- Avoid the fear and vulnerability associated with taking risks.
- Justify a lack of effort or failure by attributing it to external forces.
- Gain support and validation from others.
- Attack the people around you who don’t validate your victimhood. Because you feel like they don’t understand you, you give yourself permission to blame them for victimizing you too. [Demon Spotting Code Word: Vampire]
- Stay stuck in the traps you set for yourself. All your effort is designed to keep you stuck exactly where you are.
A real victim experiences. harm. It’s important to differentiate between having a victim mentality, and genuinely being a victim of a specific circumstance. However, unlike someone with a chronic victim mentality, if you have been harmed, you take ownership of your response and actively seek solutions.
Overcoming the Victim Mindset
AI Overview: Acting like a victim (porcupine), often referred to as having a victim mentality or a victim complex, involves a persistent pattern of thinking that has you as a constant, victim of circumstances. You often blame external factors and refuse to take responsibility for the situation. To shift out of a victim mindset, you have to develop healthy coping strategies. For instance:
- Seek professional support through therapy to process past trauma and learn healthy communication skills.
- Take responsibility for your actions and reactions.
- Practice self-compassion and gratitude.
- Set personal goals and develop resilience.
Victim Mentality: 10 Ways to Help Clients Conquer Victimhood
Note to Reader: If you have this habit of acting like a victim (porcupine), or know someone who does, take steps — please — to clean up your mental space. This split-mind behavior makes you sick and keeps you distracted from Jesus. Basically, you’re on your own, in the wrong part of the Gap Diagram, and blaming someone else for putting you there.
You don’t have to stay in this lonely place, seeking revenge or trying to rectify your situation. Besides that, the world needs you.
Spiritual warfare is real. Stop adding yourself to the wrong team.
Get on the right team. Come home to the River of Grace.
A Course in Miracles (ACIM), Lesson 31 video
After listening to today’s video lesson, take a look at the Youtube video description section. Lots of free (and paid) resources and classes taught by Nouk and Coreen are listed there.
I am not the victim of the world I see. ACIM Lesson 31
A Course In Miracles (ACIM): Workbook Lesson 31 (full text – free to read)
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